Listening to Lee Glickstein being interviewed about bringing authentic power and presence to public speaking.
Frankly, I'm so engrossed in good orators right now, I received a note on my door recently, not asking, but telling me to turn down my "very loud talk radio." [For the antiauthoritarian in me, needless to say, it was not an effective form of communication.]
Those of you Forrest trained will no doubt appreciate being asked again and again to find your feet, breathe, and then speak. The wonderful point made in Glickstein's interview is that being in front of people is less an act of performance and "getting yourself heard" [hear that direct marketers?] and more of a deep and abiding listening skill. Contrary to the old auto sales cliche, "if you're not yelling you're not selling," public speaking is a relational event.
This is fantastic timing. For the last year or so, I've been practicing listening to the collective, and listening to the individuals within that collective. The requirements seem to have the feel of zooming in and zooming out--soft receptive "gaze" [heart] and more focused "gaze".
Some of you may know there is a genetic permutation of redwood called albino redwoods that have no chlorophyll and so have white needles. What's phenomenal is that they are still living! Since they cannot process sunlight for energy, they rely on the mother root system and likely, the roots of the brother/sister trees around them to feed them. So this act of feeling your feet, feeling your legs, and feeling the ground before we announce ourselves is very much an act of touching into the same shared ground of our audience.
A couple of points here: 1. We are not alone--we are supported--through our common ground. 2. Feel your legs, feel the ground, feel your feet before you talk, as you talk, and as you listen. As an aside, when I do consultations, every time I work with someone citing aloneness, feeling like an outsider, or not having a support system, they appear to have energetically pulled their roots right out of the ground. Seldom to they have strong feeling connection to their legs. Seldom do they use their legs in a variety of ways. See the Myss flash map here.
There is no coincidence that the energy that feeds our legs also feeds our immune system, our skeletal system and our skin organ and connective tissue. [Myss speaks to baptism symbology--baptizing your family.] Feeling legs, feet, and ground to help connect with others will absolutely help us know being heard, supported, and belongingness.
"They will survive if we let them survive," [redwood video] They will listen and see us if we let them listen and see us...
...when we don't have to hide behind bravado or our expertise, yelling-selling, when we don't have to play power games...
They will listen and see us when we listen to and see them.